Episode 83

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16th Oct 2025

82. Resilience in Organisations

In this episode we discuss: Resilience in Organisations. We are joined by Aušrinė Keršanskaitė, Co-founder of Operations Nation.

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We chat about the following with Aušrinė Keršanskaitė: 

  1. How can leaders tell the difference between true resilience and simply powering through burnout?
  2. When is “just-enough process” better than perfect systems in a growing company?
  3. Which of the five types of resilience—optimistic, stoic, pragmatic, active, or existential—do you rely on most at work?
  4. What happens when imposter syndrome hits even the most experienced operations leaders—and how can you use it to grow?
  5. Why might learning to walk away from the wrong role or battle be the most resilient decision of all?

References 

  • https://www.linkedin.com/in/ausrine
  • www.operationsnation.com

Biography 

Aušrinė Keršanskaitė is a seasoned operations leader, community builder, and connector at heart. With over a decade of hands-on experience guiding startups from scrappy pre-seed beginnings to thriving Series B stages, she knows firsthand what it takes to build strong foundations and empower people along the way.

For the past five years, Aušrinė has been the driving force behind Operations Nation, a community-powered knowledge hub that connects and empowers hundreds of operations leaders around the world. Operations Nation offers a safe, supportive space for ops professionals to share advice and “ops war stories,” helping each other survive, grow, and thrive in their careers.

A firm believer that operations is the backbone of every great company, Aušrinė combines her operational expertise with a deep passion for bringing people together and building community wherever she goes.

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Summary

05:00 — Balancing speed versus sustainability in scaling operations

11:00 — Timing back-office investments and compliance readiness

15:00 — Re-orgs, structural resilience, and organizational adaptability

17:00 — Introduction to the Five Types of Resilience framework

21:00 — Deep dive into each resilience type with personal stories

28:30 — Imposter syndrome and trusting your gut as a leader

33:00 — Redefining success and boundaries in operations roles

37:00 — Shared vulnerability and leadership resilience

39:30 — Final takeaway: putting your own oxygen mask on first



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Transcript
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Hello, and welcome to another

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episode of the Operations Room, a

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podcast for COOs.

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I am Brandon Mencinga, joined by my

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lovely co-host as usual, Bethany

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Ayers. How are things going,

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Bethony?

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I have a cold.

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I haven't had a cold in a very long

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time, I feel, and I'm

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not handling it particularly

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well.

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Not because, like, I mostly just

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decided to ignore that I have cold

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and see how much I can do

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through cold medicine alone and

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powering through.

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I mean, given the fact that this

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episode is about resilience,

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you're diving into it right now, the

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resilience to colds affecting

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you and your performance.

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Yeah, I'm not sure if it's

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resilience or just stupidity.

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Partially it's because really

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enjoying my job, have so much to do,

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don't want to take a sick day,

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and then also I'm, like,

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desperately trying to get into a

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good fitness routine and

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habit, and so I just don't

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the cold to disrupt any of that.

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So, anything else going on in your

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world these days, what's happening?

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The office.

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Our office is an old WeWork.

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This week we got our storage

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units and they're, so

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Matomic's color is like a dark

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purple.

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I'm not loving our brand

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colors because, like, to

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build slides we have dark purple,

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medium purple, light purple,

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gray purple.

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Rainbow of purples happening

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there.

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Yeah, which is limiting,

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let's say, but it means that we

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got storage that is light purple, so

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it's one of our brand colors, and

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then I am slowly

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bringing plants in from our house

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because we have an overrun of

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plants. My husband doesn't like how

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many plants are here anyhow,

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so I carried an

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aloe vera in with me on the

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overground yesterday.

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You should have seen the looks I was

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getting.

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People are walking around with the

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spikes, but we have that in now,

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and then we got a drinks fridge, and

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so now all of our drinks instead of

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being in Tesco bags sitting

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in the corner are in the

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refrigerator, and one of

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our teammates sent out a message

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on Slack yesterday because we

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had an office day.

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Can everybody spend their first 10

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minutes cleaning up around their

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spaces and organizing their

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wires and, like, the office looks

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really nice now, so now we have a

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lot of office pride, and I'm...

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It's really nice to walk in and not

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just be like, is this a dorm room?

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That's amazing.

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So is there a bit of a sense of

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positivity response-wise with folks

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around the office?

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Yeah, and I've had feedback that it

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feels like a new company and it

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feels like a grown-up company, and

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also that I would have hated the

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old office.

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Whatever was going on in the old

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office, I can't remember if I told

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you, there was, like, the only

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furniture that made it in from the

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old office I just hated.

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They brought the best furniture

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over, and it was these bean

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bag sofas.

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Because it's a bean bag, it's low on

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the ground, so you have to sit about

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a foot off the ground,

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and they're corduroy and kind

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of, like...

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Appley, minty, green, very

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worn.

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And it's just like, what is this?

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And that was the best furniture.

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So it's like, these have to

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go.

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So here's a miniature positive

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thing that happened this past week,

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which is, for the All Hands meeting,

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so we now have an office in New York

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City, we have roughly, let's say, 15

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employees there, and as always for

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All Hands, the comms connection

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between London and New York is

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very important, so everyone can hear

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each other properly, be able to ask

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questions properly.

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And, you know, we now have more

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employees in the London office, and

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it's also important that the

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speakers are projected and

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amplified, whereby you can hear them

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at the back of the room effectively.

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This past week, we had our first All

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Hands meeting where everything

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worked perfectly.

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It was amazing.

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I was so proud.

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Of the team, because I feel like

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we've gone on a bit of an evolution

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here. I decided to

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not get a technical outside

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AV consultant to come in to

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help us select equipment and put it

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all together and all that jazz.

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My brilliant idea was to do it

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myself, DIY, because we're scale

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up, you know, budget conscious.

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Went on ChatGBT,

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mapped out what I needed to buy,

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how it all connected together.

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I had this kind of 10-page PDF

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document that showed the visuals.

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I was like, how hard can this be?

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I mean, congratulations.

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I know how complicated because I've

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been starting to try and look at it

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for us as well.

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And first of all, it's so expensive

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and secondly, quite complicated.

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I will send you my 10-page PDF.

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Please do.

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Yeah, share it.

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That could be our next subscription

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content is Brandon's

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10-page PDF if you want to do your

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own.

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So let's move on.

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We've got a great topic for today,

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which is resilience in

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organizations.

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We have an amazing guest for this,

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which is Oshrina.

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She is the co-founder of Operations

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Nation, which we have a longstanding

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relationship with.

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And they have their conference

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upcoming, I believe, this October,

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which I'm sure will be fantastic and

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we'll be joining as well.

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So before we get to Oshrina, I just

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wanted to ask you a couple of

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questions, Bethany.

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The first one was, many

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organizations fall into this

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just-get-it-done mode during

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the growth phase or the scale-up

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phase.

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How do you balance getting stuff

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done, getting shit done in speed

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versus building sustainable systems

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or having an eye towards that?

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What should a CEO be thinking about?

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So part of it is I'm

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a real fan of

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just-in-time process and

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just-enough process.

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And I think there's a tendency for

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some people to want to do it

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all rather than what

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actually matters.

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And when you want to it all and

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build out something perfect, that's

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what slows down the business versus

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what will speed

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people up for

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now and remove the mental load for

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now without producing a

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huge amount of work.

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So one example for me is

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HubSpot or CRM.

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People want to capture everything

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and lots of just-in-cases,

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what-ifs, what if we need to know it

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in the future.

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And I don't want

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that salespeople have to fill in all

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of that information because the more

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required boxes you make...

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...The worse the quality is

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and the less the salespeople will do

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it.

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So one of the things that I always

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task rev ops with is

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how much of the data can

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be sourced elsewhere

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and automatically put in

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so that nobody has

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to touch it.

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And then for the sales team,

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I make a commitment that

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the only required fields are

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the ones that actually matter and we

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keep it to the bare minimum and

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explain what they are.

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So for me, it's...

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Close date, stage,

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what products are we selling if we

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have more than one product, the most

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recent accurate deal value.

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Everything else should or

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could be automated in some way,

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particularly now that AI exists and

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you have all of these tools that

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will help you start to populate your

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HubSpot, we'll put in your med

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pic stuff, we'll tell you what size

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of company, industry,

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t-shirt size, whatever, like just

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stuff that...

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...Marketing wants to know or

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execs want to know that is

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not actually critical.

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And so that's one example of it, but

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I'm always thinking about like, what

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do we actually need versus

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the Rolls-Royce that somebody

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wants that is totally pointless

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right now?

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I think with things like HubSpot, I

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think it's such a great example

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because either it is

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totally not set up in any way

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that is like helpful to anyone,

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which is sometimes the case.

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And in other cases, you have the

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over-engineering effect where

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leadership wants to see charts

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A, B, and C, but they don't quite

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know what they want. So therefore,

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we need to have 25 charts to satisfy

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any potential desire on the part

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of leadership.

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Especially when you hire

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professionals to come in, they have

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a tendency to kind of like go the

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full route and it's just not needed.

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And I think sometimes...

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Contractors in this way are actually

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quite useful at early stages because

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they're very good at what they do,

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but they're also very wise in terms

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of like understanding the stage that

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you're at and what's appropriate to

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get done and also counseling the

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head of sales in a little more, you

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know, kind of a discreet fashion in

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terms of, you know let's not go

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crazy here, let's just do A, B, and

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C.

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The other thing that I

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think about is what matters

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to the business in the next 12

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months, maybe 18 months,

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and enabling that to happen and

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prioritizing that is the key bit.

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A good example in this case would be

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onboarding sales reps.

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So if we're going into a phase where

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we're starting to hire a higher

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number batch-wise of sales reps

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coming in or BDRs coming in,

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a reasonable amount of effort put

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into the onboarding process to

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ensure that...

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From zero productivity to

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X amount of productivity whereby

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they're actually achieving quota

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step-by-step, that matters,

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that's a return on investment.

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I agree, and it's also, so what

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matters to the business

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and what are the KPIs?

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If you, we just bounty about KPI

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and we don't think about what it

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means, which is key performance

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indicators, not every performance

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indicator.

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And I feel like people start to

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measure too many things, one,

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because they're like, oh, why is

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that? So, oh we better answer that

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this way. Oh, let's look at this.

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And then suddenly you're looking at

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seven different metrics.

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Whereas really you just need to look

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at the one. And then when you go,

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oh, that's going wrong, you can go

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and like investigate and figure out

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what's happening. And that's when

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you look at others, but you don't

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need to at every week.

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So that's, and then also I

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think sometimes people, and I'm

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definitely guilty of this myself of

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like, it's hard to really believe

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that less is more.

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And if I only look at two things or

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only provide one idea that's

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really good, was that good enough

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or should I provide 10?

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And so if like your BDR

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is coming in, what does

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success look like for them?

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They should have one leading

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indicator, one lagging

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indicator.

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And then they really know what their

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job is.

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So depending on what your outbound

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is and what your motion is

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that works for you, if dials

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still matter, like how many connects

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are they making a day so you know

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they're picking up the phone.

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If you're like, it's not always

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connects anymore because some

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industries people will not pick up

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the phones. So let's assume they

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still do.

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And then the other one is

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not how many meetings are they,

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well, I mean, early days, how many

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meeting are they booking?

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Cause you have some way you

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need some momentum, but

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fundamentally how many are actually

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making it to being sat

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and converted.

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So the quality and that's it.

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And then they either they're doing

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that or they're not. So they're

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performing or they've hit their ramp

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or they haven't, they stay, they

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go. And not all this other stuff.

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So the other one I was thinking

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about was, there's always this

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question of when do you start taking

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security seriously and start

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doing ISO for B2B enterprise

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companies and so on.

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And it sometimes depends on your

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target audience that you're going

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after and how important that is for

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your customers obviously.

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But I think this is a classic one

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where deferring it as

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much as you possibly can, where

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it doesn't impact the deals

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themselves in terms of getting them

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done. And you can make certain

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future commitments in your contracts

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and look.

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We are thinking about ISO, it'll be

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done in the future.

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You can do that longer than you

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think, to be honest, in my view.

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I'm probably the other way where

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when it's small, it's less of

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a problem. When you're big, it's a

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bigger problem.

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And if you start with

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some of it, I guess also because I'm

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now in cyber, so of course we have

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to do it. Absolutely everybody wants

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to see the certificates all the

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time. But before selling into

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enterprise as well, if

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you don't have your SOC 2 or your

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ISO 27001, you just have to share

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this massive document

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every single time, because an

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enterprise isn't gonna do it

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without. And a lot of that that

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you're in the document sharing is

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kind of stuff you have to do anyhow

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for them.

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And so I'm the other way, because

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particularly now that there are

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tools that help you.

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So we used Vanta at peak,

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we're using Drata at Matomic.

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And then there's another one that I

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just heard about the other day.

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Delve maybe, I'm making it up.

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Yeah, is this for DDQs or for

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ISO?

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It's for all of it apparently,

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ISO SOC 2 and HIPAA.

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And they say they can do it in

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something like 24 hours for you, but

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it's a tech. Obviously you have to

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put in the rest of it.

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I guess it depends on what stage

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you're talking about and who you

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sell to. But if you're selling to

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enterprise, you're gonna have to

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show that you know what you're

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taking about and you're not your

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guardians of their data anyhow.

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It's actually fascinating, this is a

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bit of a digression now, but I'm

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heavily involved in DDQs right now

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myself.

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So we're just prior to our Series B

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and we're in a target

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audience of law firms

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that are very focused on

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security obviously and

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confidentiality and these sorts of

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things.

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80% of customers that come

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through now.

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Are all, we're asking

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formal DDQ responses

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that are required that are massive

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in size.

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So we are super hot right now

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to make this as friction-free as

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humanly possible for the sales team.

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We're using a product called

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Platformed and Platform is

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AI product whereby it

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ingests your documentation and

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will automatically take the format

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that's been given to it.

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Respond into that formatted template

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that's been provided to you from the

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customer and try to automate as much

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as humanly possible.

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The fascinating bit is

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we probably have 60%

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auto answers with no edits required

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by a human being and 60%

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in my opinion is very, very

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low. I don't quite understand why

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that's the case because the fact of

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the matter is every question we get

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that we don't, we haven't previously

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answered that we answer as a net new

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manually obviously goes back into

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the AI whereby it knows it at that

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point. And for some reason.

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The percentage increase that we're

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seeing is just incredibly slow, like

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50% to 51 to 52 over

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time. It's just like this has to be

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at 80 as soon as possible because we

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have a ton of DDQs upcoming this

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quarter and if we don't get ahead of

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this right now, we're gonna have to

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have people do all sorts of crazy

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manual labor right now to get these

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responses in place.

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So we're now competitively

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looking at other products that are

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not platformed but other.

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AI vendors that do this to see what

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the actual difference is in terms of

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the speed, turnaround, quality of

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the answers and the AI, the auto

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answer with no edit kind of

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percentage and we have a bit of a

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sample set that we're using.

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So I'm quite fascinated to see what

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the results gonna be.

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The technology is moving so quickly.

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I'd be interested to hear.

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I've just shared the link for you

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for Delve.

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Do you have any examples of stuff

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that you would have done earlier in

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terms of kind of back office

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enablement to get ahead of things?

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Any mistakes that you think you've

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made in the past where if you've

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gotten to it earlier, it would have

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been a wiser course of action as

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opposed to punting and deferring.

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Nothing is immediately coming to

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mind. Like I think, and also the

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world is so different now

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with AI and the ability to

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automate in a way that we didn't use

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to.

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So rather than things

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that I wish we had done differently

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is as soon as you start to do

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something repetitively,

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I've asked the team to, you know, is

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there a solution for this?

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So how do we automate invoicing?

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How do we automated cache

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collection?

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How do automate our

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data? Collection for HubSpot.

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Because agents and AI is so

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smart now, how can

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we use that for a lot of

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the busy work that we used to have,

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but it's just new.

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So if I look back at my old career,

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it's so different that it's almost

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like irrelevant.

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What do you think of this?

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When you go through organizational

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design and your organizational

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design works to a certain point and

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they need to reorg and

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with the reorg as you're getting

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larger in size, the problems

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change somewhat.

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You're trying to re-org to ensure

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that it's suitable for the next time

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period of the company, but companies

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seem to get trapped in this loop of

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like, it seems to happen faster

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than it should in some respects in

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terms of like we've done a reorg,

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now 12 months later we need to do

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another reorg to kind of re-sort

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things because things aren't working

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for whatever reason.

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Do you have any kind of thoughts on

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that and maybe any kind tips in

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terms of how to think about

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organizational design to make them

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as durable as possible?

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I guess part of the question is

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should it be durable?

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Like particularly in a scale up,

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like if you're 50% or

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100% bigger than you were a year

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ago, it probably makes sense to do a

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redesign.

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And then also if you look at the big

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companies, they do it every single

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year and they're not even growing

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anymore.

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I think some of it is just to keep

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employees, like it's a way of

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getting some level of advancement

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and keeping people who have been

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there for ages interested still,

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every one to two years that people

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have brand new jobs again.

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So I think that there's also just

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some natural tensions in businesses

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where there isn't one solution,

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which is why people swing back and

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forth.

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So regional versus global,

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you get that a lot.

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Like should you have global

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functions and then regional leaders,

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or should all of the power be in the

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regions and a very light

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coordination from global?

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And you see companies

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pendulum back and fourth between

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those two and then.

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Culture-wise, some seem to land more

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in one way or the other or just a

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complexity thing.

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So that's one where

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you see businesses going back and

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forth.

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The other one is,

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is it better to do pods

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of mixed teams that actually

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work together who is

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always the dotted line versus the

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straight line. So in development,

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should you have your

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multidisciplinary pod with one

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leader? Or should everybody manage

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up to their functional leaders

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and then be a dotted line

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into their pod?

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And again, I've seen both work and

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I've see people flip back and forth

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loads, but ultimately people's

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day-to-day jobs don't change.

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They're still working with the same

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people, they're still solving the

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same problems, it's just who do they

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have their one-to ones with?

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And sometimes I think we are overly

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concerned about things.

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It matters because it matters

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where managers go, but individuals

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who do the job every day, it doesn't

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really matter to them.

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If they're sitting in an engineering

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pod versus sitting in a whatever

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stupid name pod, because they all

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come up with their stupid names,

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Atlantis pod.

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Last question, Oshrina talked about

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personal resilience and her

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framework of five types of

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personal resilience.

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And I'll just read these out just

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to refresh our memories and a bit of

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commentary from you in terms of what

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you make of these.

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But number one, optimistic

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resilience, the ability to reframe

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difficult situations and find

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something positive in them.

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Stoic resilience, the mental

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discipline to accept reality

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and take action without overthinking

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or unnecessary suffering.

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Number three, pragmatic resilience,

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the wisdom to choose your battles,

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protect your energy and walk away

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from situations that don't serve

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you.

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Number four, active resilience, the

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act of seeking support,

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self-advocating and using your

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network rather than struggling in

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isolation.

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And the last one, existential

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resilience, the ability to zoom

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out, see the bigger picture and

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recognize that most problems are

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temporary and not life-defining.

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What do you make of those five and

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does Bethany have a kind of

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a stacked ranked?

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Set of layers here that she uses.

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Part of what you need to do is

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understand the situation you're in.

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And then I think I just intuitively

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will apply one

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of those to the situation.

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Actually, what's interesting for me

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is they're all very much

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as an individual,

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how you can soothe

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yourself in effect.

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You know, like reframing it in some

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way or they're versions

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of reframed, aren't they?

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So it's either reframin' to be

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positive, reframing it.

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My problem, reframing,

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you know, understanding that I can't

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solve it, understanding that it's

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not such a big deal.

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But one of the concepts that I

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really like and

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came across, actually, if I ever

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met a therapist a couple of years

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ago, is the idea

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of like nervous system regulation.

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And fundamentally, what you're

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trying to do is get your nervous

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system to be regulated again.

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And all of these are around

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self-regulation.

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But sometimes,

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it's impossible to self-regulate.

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You're in a situation where it's

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just beyond your ability to self

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soothe.

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And then it's going out

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into needing somebody

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else to help co-regulation.

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Children do this all the time.

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So they hurt themselves, they

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run to their parents, and

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through holding them, talking to

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them, soothing them, they can calm

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down and they're not able to self

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regulate themselves.

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And so the ability to

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try these techniques, and if I'm

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still not being able to regulate,

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I'll notice that I'm making contact

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with others. And I think that's also

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why some people end

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up being the ones that everybody

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goes to, is because they're quite

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good at, we intuitively notice

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who's well regulated.

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And generally, if somebody has a

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very regulated nervous system,

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they can help you get your nervous

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system regulated again.

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So.

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I guess for me, the advice is just

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if these things aren't working, or

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you're finding that it's impossible

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to get yourself back down,

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sometimes you need to look

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externally as well.

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So out of the five, do you have one

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that you lean on particularly?

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I think I'm probably the last one of

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like, in the big picture,

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does this matter zooming out?

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Will I remember this in a

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year's time?

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When's the last time I did something

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that I can even remember?

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I can remember sometimes the

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freak out of feeling horrible,

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but I can't even remember what the

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event was anymore.

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And so it's like, this is where

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we're at, and this is not a big

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deal. That's probably my number

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one go to.

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I mean, I can't remember what I ate

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for breakfast three days ago, so

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this is gonna be

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long gone in a month, let

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alone in a year.

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All right, let's wrap up here, and

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we will move on to our conversation

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with Oshrina.

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You know, my first story comes from

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a book called Pollyanna by

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Eleanor Porter.

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And I read it when I was probably 10

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years old.

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And it was about a small orphan

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who always

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remained this relentlessly cheerful

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thanks to a game that she invented

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called Glad Game.

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The core of it was kind of about

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something to be glad about

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in every situation, no matter how

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bleak that situation was.

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And, you know, for Christmas, for

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example, she got a crutch because

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that was the only thing, if I

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remember correctly, that was left in

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this kind of charity that

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her dad was involved.

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And instead of being really upset,

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she thought, well, you now, I've

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got a crouch. Well, at least I don't

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need to use it.

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At least I didn't have a broken leg.

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Then I don't really remember the

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rest of the book, but at 10 years

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old, this game kind of stuck with

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me. As you're a kid, you kind of go

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about your day and you play the

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situations and you're in your hand,

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probably shows my age.

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I didn't play computer games back

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then. And I think I started

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applying this to my daily lives,

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kind of trying to find situations

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that I shouldn't be happy about and

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take myself out of this

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unhappiness by training

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my mind to kind of spot

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opportunities in

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difficult moments.

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So, you know, like it's not about

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denying any sort of hardship.

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It's about acknowledging the

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situation that you're in.

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And asking at the same time, what

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can I be glad about?

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So this one I called optimistic

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resilience.

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You know, you got to accept it, make

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the best of it.

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It's kind of cognitive reframing

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that helps you get out of

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your mind, kind of like swiveling

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and try to feel sorry for yourself.

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The second type of the resilience

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is from another book that I read

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when I was a kid.

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I was teenager.

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By then I went to the library, found

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this book on the shelf by Marcus

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Aurelius.

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That now I think every set of

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founder knows is the meditations.

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And I'm like, guys, like I was there

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first. Like I read it when I was 13

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or 14.

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The funny thing is that I picked it

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up and I was like probably at that

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point in my like emo goth years.

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I picked up and I couldn't find it

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in the bookshop.

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So I ended up photocopying that

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book cover to cover and

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I still have it at home.

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But there was actually one quote

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that really stuck with me.

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And it said, if a cucumber is

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bitter, throw it away.

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If there are brambles on the path,

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turn aside.

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Don't go on to say, why were things

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this sort of brought into the world?

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And the key point here

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is if something is really

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unpleasant for you, you've got to

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deal with it simply.

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Don't add this extra suffering

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by dwelling on why it exists.

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And you're gifted with shaping

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your response.

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So for example, if something happens

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in your organization overnight

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and as an operations leader, you're

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in the position to

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somehow turn it over.

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You don't have the time to dwell on

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it. You need to do something about

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it. And I think this, again, like

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this is the quote that

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really stayed with me and I

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think really shaped who I am today.

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I don't remember any other quote

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from that book.

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As you go through life, I think as

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any person, you will remember the

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moments or the sentences or the

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words or the people that really

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shaped you.

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So yeah, so this is, I guess, like a

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stoic resilience, like accept,

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move on, all good.

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Then I'm Lithuanian

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and we have a lot of nice

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proverbs in Lithuanian, like nice

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sayings.

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It says and it

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means if they give,

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take, if they hit, run.

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And it's a little bit of a

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survivalist.

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Know when you need to lean

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in and know

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when to disengage.

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Kind of pick your own battles.

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So I call this pragmatic resilience,

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like situational awareness.

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Just protect your energy.

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If this is not your battle,

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it's fine, move on.

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You don't need to continue going at

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it. So we have

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positive optimistic resilience,

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which is reframing.

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Then we have don't

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sweat the small stuff.

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What were you calling it, the second

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one?

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Stoic resilience, of course, cause

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stoicism, yeah.

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And now the third was,

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I'm trying to think of like, what's

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another way of pragmatic,

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like self-preservation.

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So one of the things that I really

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like is from the

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alcoholic anonymous's

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prayer, which isn't actually a

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prayer. It seems like it should be

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coming from the Bible, which is

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like the strength to change

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the things I can,

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accept the things that I can't and

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the wisdom to tell the difference.

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And that seems to be number three.

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Look at reality and accept reality

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or change reality if you can change

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it. But do the right one with

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the right thing.

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Exactly. I think it's also a

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combination of a stoic and

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pragmatic.

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Yeah, just take it,

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take what you get and move on.

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And if it's too hard to change

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something, you don't have

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to, if it not your battle to

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run.

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So yeah, I love your

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quote. We'll need to find that

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specific one.

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Broadly that, it sounds much nicer.

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And then what are the last two?

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The last one is, I guess

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like it's an English saying, you

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don't ask, you don't get.

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Because in operations,

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we're always, we always think

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that we're lone soldiers in the

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fields. And yes, we are

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post-functional and yes, we do

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things together with the team, but

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we don't have to

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fight the fight alone.

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Yes, operations is lonely, but you

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also have the rest of the company at

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your fingertips.

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You have the community at your

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finger tips. You have your network

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at your fingers tips, if you want

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to. So it's, you know, the you don't

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ask, you don't get. And I think I

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would call it.

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Resilience is like, you know, be

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really constructed by the action

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that you want to take.

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Self-advocate for yourself.

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You know, you don't need to suffer

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in silence.

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There are so many resources that

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you can count on.

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So I think as operations leaders, we

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just need to normalize seeking for

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help. And I will advertise

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my own Community Operations Nation

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where folks can come and

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find others in the same

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challenges.

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If you don't ask, you will

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definitely not get anything from

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anyone. So yes, agency

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and active resilience.

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And then the last one, like if all

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else fails, I feel like I have been

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dipping into this one a little bit

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too often lately,

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is completely zooming out the

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existential resilience

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and just visualizing your

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place in the universe.

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And I have used this so many times

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in my previous companies when things

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go wrong. And I think for me, I'm

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okay. I have built up my resilience,

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but then I look at my team who are

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maybe slightly more junior and

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they're panicking that, you know,

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out of a sudden, instead of

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BCCing everyone, they CCCed everyone

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in or something, something

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ridiculous.

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And it doesn't have to

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be the end of the world.

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So I think if you, at this

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point, tell your team

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that you're not running a

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nuclear plant, you're operating

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children's hospital, and

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there will be cases where risks

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are going to be high.

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So maybe this is not going to work

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in those instances, but just

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zooming out and reframing

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your problem and asking yourself,

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what is the real consequence here

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in this grand scheme of things,

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which really allows you to kind of

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shrink the perceived weight,

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like the perceived challenge,

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and at the same time,

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create the mental space for

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solutions.

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Because again, I have been in so

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many companies and I think

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operations teams are normally the

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level-headed ones.

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And then...

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You know, sometimes other team

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members, they freak out and they're

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like, oh my God, like, what will we

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do now that we have failed SYZ?

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It's always down to operations to

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resolve it.

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And I think it's always better to

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do it when you are zoomed out and

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this, you know, more existential,

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more like, okay, this is a blip in

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the universe.

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Two billion years from now, nobody

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will care.

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It's easier to find flow state that

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way when you're relaxed, even if

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it's a crisis for

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others. They're like, yeah, it's the

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challenge.

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It's a nice puzzle to solve.

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It'll be okay.

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The other thought that I was having

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was around this question of imposter

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syndrome.

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How do you manage that as an

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operator?

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I think, first of all, imposter

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syndrome is important

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to have, a little bit of it.

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Not a whole lot of it, because

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that will send you spinning in

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the wrong direction.

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But I do think that

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a little tinge of imposter syndrome

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is what keeps us sane, what keeps

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aspiring to

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reach more, to learn.

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Because we think every so often that

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we're not just there yet, like we're

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no enough, but...

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A lot of the times, it's been

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out of control.

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I had a very

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interesting experience with

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imposter syndrome after my

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first dialing job.

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And I think a lot of operations

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leaders have that one

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place of work where they

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started maybe a little earlier on,

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and then they have developed into

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leadership position.

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That's exactly what happened to me

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at a company that I

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was, I guess I grew up as an

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operations leader.

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That company was called Y Plan.

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And...

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What happened there in the end,

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Y Plan got sold to Time

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Out. I was made redundant in the

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process and I needed to find another

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role.

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And because it was my first

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venture into operations at that

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time, that was about seven years

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ago, I didn't really know anyone

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else who held a title

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head of operations, operations

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director, COO.

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I had a very small network

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and that network was mainly...

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Like a sales marketing product,

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engineers. Because seven years ago

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in London, if you went to

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an event, you would normally

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meet everyone else but

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operations people.

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And that was also one

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of the reasons why me

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and my co-founders started

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Operations Nation.

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But about a year before,

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I was in a really dire situation

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where I found a

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job, I got an offer.

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At an amazing company, it was called

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City Pantry, now Just Eat For

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Business.

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And I had

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a gut feeling that I shouldn't

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accept it.

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But I did.

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I think this was

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the lowest point of my career

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because I couldn't

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perform to the best of my ability.

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And what happened, I went from

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digital marketplace, so

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from a marketplace to another

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marketplace.

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But the second marketplace, City

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Pentry, it...

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Delivering hot food at rush

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hour from point A to point B

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in bulk.

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So it was catering lunches

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for businesses.

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And I really struggled

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to connect with

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the purpose of my role, which was

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ultimately, you know, shaving off

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pennies really from the delivery

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costs.

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The team was lovely.

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The leadership team was great,

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although not similar

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to the leadership team that the team

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that I was at before.

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Something didn't click.

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And the reason why I'm telling you

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about this in the context of

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imposter syndrome is that it put

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me to the bottom of it.

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I started questioning myself whether

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I am destined for operations

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in general.

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I started question myself

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whether I have any skills that I

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thought I was excelling at.

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It was a really bad place.

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And it came from

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me not trusting my gut feeling.

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But I think not everything in life

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is meant to work.

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And I think it was not my place

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to be. So I left

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City Pantry quite quickly.

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And afterwards, I have thrived in

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any other role that I have taken

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on.

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But I think for

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operations leaders, it's very easy

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to start

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feeling this weight

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of imposter syndrome when you're

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in the wrong situation and at

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the wrong place.

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Because our roles,

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Bethany, like you say, are

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to do everything else

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that nobody else is doing.

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And you need to be extremely

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resourceful and you need have

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that resilience.

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And sometimes it's just

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not going to be

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the case because you

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are not going to have either certain

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skills or interests.

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And it's absolutely fine.

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For you to, going back to my

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personal principles, pick your

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battle.

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You don't feel good in this.

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It's fine to walk away.

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And I think, again, for operations

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leaders, it's very important to

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understand exactly what your

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skillset is.

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Because across, I don't even

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know how many things we can be

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taking care of.

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From finance, to legal, to

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compliance, to HR, to people ops,

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to customer operations,

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to leading leadership teams.

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Like this glue is multifunctional

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and you don't have to excel at

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every single piece of it.

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So I think understanding exactly

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where you're best and

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where you stand.

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Really helps you control that

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imposter syndrome.

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So if I go on the

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other side of imposter syndrome,

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like there was something that was

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interesting, what you said around

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you didn't trust your

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gut in retrospect.

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And also to be aware

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of what you're good at and what you

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are not good at. There's actually,

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there's something else in there

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which is not just what you good at,

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but what you enjoy.

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Because I think as operations

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professionals, we're good a lots of

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things. But that doesn't mean that

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we should do them, which

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listening to your gut or your

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heart comes into play.

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And it's something that I think it

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takes experience to start to

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trust yourself.

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Do you have any, in retrospect,

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ways that you now trust your

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gut more than you used to or

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hints for people who are learning to

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trust their...

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I'm not sure that I do.

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I think it definitely comes with

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experience

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and ability to

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question yourself

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and daring to question others.

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So I think especially earlier in

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your career when you're

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interviewing, you forget that

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you're also interviewing the company

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that you are going to be working

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for, that you can,

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you know, in a way grill them.

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In a very similar way that they're

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asking questions of you.

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But I think for me, it only came

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with experience, this, you know,

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daring to really dig a little bit

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deeper.

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And I think when you're

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applying for a leadership position,

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that also gives you a little more

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permission or at least you

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feel a little more permission to ask

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many, many more questions.

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I think one of the principles that

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I've applied time and time

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again that really helped me is the

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five whys principle.

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Ask why five times.

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Ask the other person why

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five times, but also ask that

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of yourself.

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Because I think we're always

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preconditioned to come

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up with solutions instead

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of seeing the real problem and

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asking why five time

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in a row really

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enables you to get to the core

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situation that you're dealing with.

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So that's probably my

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best answer.

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I'm curious about me on the imposter

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syndrome front.

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I don't know if you've spoken about

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this specifically, but do you

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recognize any of that to yourself?

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Yeah, definitely.

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But I find for me,

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it comes when I'm not feeling

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good.

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So if I'm feeling unstable in

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a situation, I'll

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take too much responsibility.

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So it won't even just be like

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areas where I'm doing a

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good job. There'll be other people's

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areas where they're not doing a job

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and then I'll it as my

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responsibility for like

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not going in and saving them

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from their bad job.

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Or having hired them in the first

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place or having not gotten rid of

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them in time, even if they don't

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report to me.

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So like when I'm not in a good

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place, I find reasons

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to explain to myself why I'm shit

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versus when I am in a

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place, I can see

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the stories that I'm telling myself.

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But it can be really hard to

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identify that I

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am doing that if I'm feeling good.

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So it needs to be a bit of a check

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in first of am I in

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a a good or not, rather than.

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And then just like ignoring the

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self criticism that comes in.

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One of the things that really

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helped me actually, it was at

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the end of my plan.

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Actually, no, it was in the middle

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of my first company and

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my boss was leaving who had

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a title of EP operations and he

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handed over his job to

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me and left.

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And he said, you're going to be

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doing your job and also my job on

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top and you're great and yet we'll

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have absolutely no problem with it.

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And I was freaking out.

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And he was a guy that I really

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looked up to and.

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We had a kind of hard to hard on

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his last day.

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And he said, every time that

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he goes into leadership meeting,

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he's not sure of himself.

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Like, he is not sure what he's going

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to say.

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He doubts himself all

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the time. And for me,

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who was just embarking to

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leadership position in my

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first company, these were gold

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words to hear from

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a man who was, you know, a

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decade older than me.

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He has just admitted to me

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that he is as scared.

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Sometimes as I am.

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And every time I find

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myself fearful of a situation

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or I start experiencing,

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you know, that imposter syndrome

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pretty hard, I think

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of him and I'll

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look around into the

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room and I think, well, every single

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person here is probably

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experiencing exactly the same thing.

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And that really calms me down.

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So it's like, it's a little bit on

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the existential resilience.

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You're not alone.

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Like we all have our demons

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to battle. Whether or not we're

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battling them on the same day

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doesn't mean that there aren't.

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Unless you're a sociopath,

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you're going to be feeling these

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things.

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And then sociopaths and narcissists

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are just so damaged that they've

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blocked it entirely from it.

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We have covered so much today.

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If our listeners can only take

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one thing away from today's

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episode, what is it?

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As an operations leader,

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put your own oxygen mask

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first.

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So you can help

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your organization to

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thrive and survive

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when the

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shit hits the fan.

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And there you go. I swear.

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On that note, I will take my oxygen

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mask off and we will wrap up the

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operations room. Thank you for

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joining us.

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And if you like what you hear,

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please subscribe or leave us a

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comment and we'll see you next week.

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About the Podcast

The Operations Room: A Podcast for COO’s
We are the COO coaches to help you successfully scale in this new world where efficiency is as important as growth. Remember when valuations were 3-10x ARR and money wasn’t free? We do. Each week we share our experiences and bring in scale up experts and operational leaders to help you navigate both the burning operational issues and the larger existential challenges. Beth Ayers is the former COO of Peak AI, NewVoiceMedia and Codilty and has helped raise over $200m from top funds - Softbank, Bessemer, TCV, MCC, Notion and Oxx. Brandon Mensinga is the former COO of Signal AI and Trint.

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