Episode 74

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13th Mar 2025

74. The Art and Science of 1:1 Meetings

In this episode we discuss: the art and science of 1 to 1 meetings. We are joined by Dr. Steven Rogelberg, CEO, Board Member, Editor, Author, Chief Talent Officer, Director.

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We chat about the following with Steven Rogelberg: 

  1. Are your one-on-ones actually driving engagement, or are they just another meeting on the calendar?
  2. What message are you really sending when you cancel a one-on-one—and how does it impact employee trust?
  3. Why is listening more than speaking the secret to making one-on-ones truly effective?
  4. How can structured one-on-ones boost productivity, retention, and even inclusion within your team?
  5. Are most managers failing at one-on-ones simply because they’ve never been trained to do them well?

References 

  • https://www.linkedin.com/in/rogelberg/
  • stevenrogelberg.com

Biography 

Dr. Steven G. Rogelberg is a Chancellor’s Professor at UNC Charlotte and a leading expert on meetings. An award-winning organizational psychologist, he has over 200 publications, 12,000+ citations, and received the prestigious Humboldt Award for his research. Adam Grant calls him the “world’s leading expert on how to fix meetings.”

His book The Surprising Science of Meetings appeared on 25+ “best of” lists, including The Washington Post’s #1 leadership book to watch. His latest book, Glad We Met: The Art and Science of 1:1 Meetings, has earned high praise, including recognition from SHRM and Forbes.

Rogelberg has been featured on CBS This Morning, CNN, BBC World, NPR’s Morning Edition, and major publications like The WSJ, NY Times, Bloomberg, and National Geographic. His keynotes have been delivered worldwide at top organizations including Google, Amazon, Pfizer, and the United Nations.

In 2022, he testified before the U.S. Congress and was the inaugural winner of SIOP’s Humanitarian Award.

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Summary

14:40 The Importance of One-on-Ones

17:48 Common Mistakes in One-on-Ones

23:40 Building Trust and Connection

26:51 Key Elements of Effective One-on-Ones

27:22 Surprising Insights from Research

30:34 Training and Supporting Line Managers

33:28 Creating a Culture of Effective Meetings



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Transcript
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Hello everyone, and welcome to

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another episode of The Operations

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Room, a podcast for Ciolos.

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I am Brandon Metzinger, joined by my

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lovely co-host Bethany Ayres.

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How are things going this morning,

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Bethany?

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I'm on my second cup of tea and

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hoping to have a third really

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quickly.

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Woohoo!

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That is an early start to the

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morning early.

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An intense start.

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Like it's been really busy at work

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recently and I've basically just

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been surviving on caffeine.

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But I can't drink coffee,

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so I just having a

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million cups of tea, which doesn't

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sound very hardcore, but for me

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is pretty hardcore, like

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six cups of tea.

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Tea has a tremendous amount of

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caffeine. Does it not like typical

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tea, like Earl gray tea or

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what have you?

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Oh, definitely not Earl gray.

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It's like drinking perfume, but

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just normal black tea, I

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don't know, sometimes you see things

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that say it does and then other

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times you don't and you don't know

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who to believe.

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It's the internet.

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ChatGPT will have a hallucination.

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Who knows?

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So I'm a huge coffee fan.

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Love coffee? I've way too many

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coffees. It's my drug of choice

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these days.

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Why can you not drink?

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Coffee is like a stomach issue.

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I don't know, there's something

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about it that doesn't agree with me.

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Like I even decaffeinated.

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It kind of oozes out of my skin.

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I just smell weird for days

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afterwards. I get heart

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palpitations.

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And it's not just the caffeine, but

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there's like, something in maybe the

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oils that cause I'll

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even get heart palpitations with the

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decaf because I love coffee,

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but not that I have ever taken

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cocaine.

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But yes.

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But it's like the

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analogous I can imagine if

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I had one gram of cocaine

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is the equivalent of ten cups of

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coffee.

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I'd like really up while

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wanting to be down at the same time,

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and not able to settle at a just

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like this very uncomfortable

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feeling.

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That's me with a cup of

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coffee.

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There's two things that I watch out

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for. What is the inflection point

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with coffee? Because up to a certain

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point you're like, yeah, loving it.

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Injection of energy.

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I'm focused and I'm brilliant.

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I'm doing really, really good work

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and that at some point it hits you

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where you're over jazz.

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Basically, your mind starts to

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scramble and your ability to

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actually focus then rapidly

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decreases.

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So I'm always highly aware of this

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inflection point.

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And then the other bidders just

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making try stop at, you

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know, I usually max out of 3:30 p.m.

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as my hard deadline for like

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not having coffee at that point

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because it does kind of sit in my

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system.

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Yeah, that's me with my tea, but I'm

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having it. I'd of 6 or 7 cups

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between 6

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a.m. and three.

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No, that's the that's the perfect

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time to know

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stories about what's been happening

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in the Bethany world.

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Yeah.

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No, nothing.

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My kids are home.

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They're driving me crazy.

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I miss when they were young and cute

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and I was the center of their

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universe.

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Now they tolerate me like,

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I think we're doing pretty good

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parenting because they don't hate

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us. There's not a lot of door

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slamming, So

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we are, at best,

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benevolent roommates.

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Benevolent benefactors.

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would never own up to the fact that

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we're actually paying for anything.

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Like, we're definitely just

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roommates, so they have to tolerate

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and at worse, people

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who are controlling their lives and

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making everything horrible.

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But not very often.

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Right. And then the occasional

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nugget of wisdom gets through.

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Yeah, but you would never know

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because they will not let you.

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Like in a few years, we'll

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find out all of these things that

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they'd actually paid attention to.

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Once they're in their 20s.

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Yeah, exactly.

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But for the moment, everything

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is just a blank face.

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No matter what I say, you know, they

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just kind of stare at me like I'm

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an absolute idiot, but

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not one that they hate.

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You know, often they feel sorry for

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me.

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They're in the teen years.

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They're just like a massive

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assumption that their

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world is like the new world.

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And you're part of the old order.

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The old guard, as it were.

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So you don't get it?

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We don't get anything.

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And we're pretty stupid.

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I mean, my daughter already hates my

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music that I listen to.

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She's like, daddy, that's old person

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music.

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She's eight years old.

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So we find common ground musically

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around Pink and Kelly Clarkson.

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So that crosses the boundaries.

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Oh, this are quite old school.

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With pink because her daughter

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is also 7 or 8 years old,

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and we've done a couple songs

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together.

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She loves that.

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And she loves that. The young girl.

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Awesome. I mean, pink is a great

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role model to go after.

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I look up to pink.

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Yeah. No nonsense.

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She's on it.

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All right, so we have a

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really wonderful topic today, which

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is the art and science of 1 to 1

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meetings.

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And we have an amazing guest for

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this. He is Steven Rosenberg.

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He's the author of Glad We Met the

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Art of science and 1 to 1 meetings.

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And that book has been on more

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than two dozen best of lists.

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And he's a frequent guest on CNN,

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CBS, Fox News, etc., etc.

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so he's a bit of a phenomena

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unto himself.

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Before we get to, Stephen wanted to

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ask you a couple of questions in

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that 1 to 1 sphere.

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There was one subtopic of interest

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that I wanted to ask you about,

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which is this idea of integrating

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career development into your one to

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ones and what you do with that and

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what that looks like for you

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historically.

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So we have like three one,

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two ones that are employee

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led or whatever you want to say, you

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know, direct report led.

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They are topics.

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And then one a month which is more

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of this career development

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feedback.

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And it's always felt a bit

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weird to me.

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It's like the policy.

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And it was there before I started

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and I could understand it, but

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it just seems like a bit of a

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mushing of what are two

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different types of meetings.

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I do them depending on the person

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and depending on the cadence.

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I think my preference would be

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constant feedback both ways,

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and then actual

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biannual appraisals

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where you pull it all together

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because I think it's much more

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organic to have it happen as it

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happens, you know?

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So there's sometimes I have no

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feedback either way.

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And then other times I'll be

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thinking that person and just have

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like an moment and much

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rather share that in our next 1 to 1

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as part of that, then save

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it or force myself to have to

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contemplate people.

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And literally the whole point of the

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radical candor philosophy, which I

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think we both agree with, is when

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things happen, you know, feedback

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should be given as rapidly as

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it makes sense, basically.

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And to your previous point on the

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other podcast, there's some elements

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where it does require some thought,

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not in terms of a particular event,

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but connecting some dots for the

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person where you need to think about

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kind of the overall picture of the

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individual in terms of what you're

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seeing and feeling around that

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individual. Contextualizing and

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bringing something for that maybe is

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more insightful.

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And those are two different things,

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but both are needed and both can

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happen at any point in time.

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It doesn't necessarily need to have

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like a planted monthly session

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to somehow do that.

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So here's kind of a question slash

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thought for you. So historically,

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I've been poor at this.

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I think in a way, because what I've

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tended to do is outside of the

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feedback part of it, which I do do

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for sure separate that

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in my head. I've always had this

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idea of career development

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as elements to be put

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into the 1 to 1 over time, not on

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a weekly basis, but what I would

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typically do is at some point during

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the year period, sit down with the

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individual and say, look, what is it

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that you want to get out of the next

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12 months?

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What do you want that to look like

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for you?

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And to work our way backwards

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in terms of, okay, that's the

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individual that you want to be, the

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role that you want, the skills that

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you want.

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How do we put a stake in the ground

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in terms of what good looks like 12,

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18 months from now, work our way

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backwards quarter on quarter and

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figure out what is a good game plan

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for you to get there effectively and

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to what would happen over the course

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of that year period. Is, you know,

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we would start really strong and

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really fresh because we've done the

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session. We spent 90 minutes kind of

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going through this in some level

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detail.

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We have really good intent,

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goodwill, the day to day grind.

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It just kind of drops away or fades

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away at some point.

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You're not really going back to a

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properly.

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And that's where I've always, for

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the most part ended up with

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individuals.

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And I'm always kind of kicking

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myself because by the time we look

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back to it a year later and do it

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again, I'm like, have we actually

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made any progress here at all?

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And the answer usually is not a

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tremendous amount.

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I agree, I hate PDP's,

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I hate the structure, I hate the way

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that they're supposed to be done.

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I feel like people teams have never

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understood what an actual PDB or

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day to day job is.

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It feels like it's written by a

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consultant who knows nothing, and I

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just think they're stupid.

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I think figuring out

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what are those blockers or what

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is the next most important

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thing for that person to either

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learn, experiment or do

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is way more powerful.

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So as an example,

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without giving too much detail, I

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had somebody in my team

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who just was not a very

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good communicator.

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Afraid of public speaking?

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Not necessarily

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inspiring their team very much.

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Knew it was an issue.

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Also had, like a real blocker about

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writing.

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My observation was you're

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not communicating very well.

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You're not getting the team behind

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you. You're not selling

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yourself within the business.

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You don't have the influence that

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you should have given your

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capability.

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And then they decided to

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do a couple things over the course

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of the year. So the first thing was

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go to a Toastmasters

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and learn how to public speech.

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And after

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a couple months of Toastmasters,

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it's like they were ready

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to present in a company

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all hands, and wanted to topic

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and did the first presentation and

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got loads of positive feedback.

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And then they decided the next thing

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I want to do is read

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more, learn more,

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and then create book

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reviews to practice writing

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and sharing my views, both

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internally and on LinkedIn.

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And so then they did that.

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And you don't need to go to courses.

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You don't need to write up a whole

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PDF. You don't have to say

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what you're going to do.

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How is it measurable?

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Blah blah blah.

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Just take the next thing.

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There was somebody else who really

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struggled with delegating.

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And so then we worked on how

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are they going to delegate.

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And then they delegated for a very

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little bit and then took it all back

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on themselves. So it's like okay,

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it's not how do you delegate.

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It's like what's holding you back

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from delegating.

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So then we worked on

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understanding personal worth

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and being afraid that they're not

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going to be capable or they're not

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going to be viewed as important if

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they delegate areas.

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And so then we did it very small,

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like, okay, delegate one

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thing and see

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how actually it improves

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your esteem. If your team is doing

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well rather than just you can now

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delegate another thing.

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And we did it in a

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small way

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where they were able to see the

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impact of each little bit that

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felt comfortable to reinforce

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it until they were able to delegate.

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And it wasn't like tools on

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delegation again.

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It was something

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that was holding them back.

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And I think those are way more

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important PDP elements that writing

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up a structure or going on a course.

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I find most courses pointless, so

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I'm very skeptical.

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I've never been on a good course.

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So I think the classic PDB with

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classic training courses and all

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ages. I agree with you 1,000%.

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It's a complete waste of time.

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I think to your point, if you want

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to be this person had 12 months and

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we roughly know what that looks

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like, then as you kind of work

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your way backwards quarter on

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quarter, we have the first quarter

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ahead of us. And what is the 1

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or 2 things that we could do this

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quarter to put ourselves on that

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pathway?

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And to your point, that don't need

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to be monumental things.

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And I definitely don't need to be

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training or formal courses in any

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form. But it's like what logically

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makes the most sense to get the

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highest impact.

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It doesn't even have to be a

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quarter. Like, sometimes it can just

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be until the next 1 to 1, or

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for the next six weeks, or

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you have something coming up, try

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something different.

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And for me, if you just focus

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on one thing for a short amount of

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time, it's a much bigger unlock

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than these 18 month plans

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or 12 month plans like another

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one just again, wasn't really

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engaging their team, not

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taking team meetings

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and team morale

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seriously.

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So they had a team meeting

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coming up.

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And then it's like, this is how team

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meetings work. This is the areas

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where you're not working.

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Go create your presentation.

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And it was like it went from a

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level five presentation to a level

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nine presentation by just being told

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they have to focus on it.

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And then there was a consistency,

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sometimes just just a gap where

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people don't realize they're not

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putting enough effort in.

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And then they do. And it's good.

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And I find that much, much more

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valuable than the

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stupid PDP and revisiting

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it, because then you can also just

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say, like so much of it is around.

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So you've experimented.

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How did it go?

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How did you feel?

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What worked? What didn't work?

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And those are the questions that are

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interesting to answer.

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Not filling in some catalog

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of have I accomplished this

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in a box?

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So here's another thing I

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philosophically do, which you may

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not agree with. Perhaps I don't

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quite know, but usually when I get

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in these sessions, what I usually

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end up saying at the outset,

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like I don't care

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about the company, but

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I care about is your career

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what you're wanting out of the next

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1218 months and how to get there?

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And if you want to be a VP of

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marketing, this may or may not be

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in this company, but you definitely

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want to be in that pathway,

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irrespective of the company that

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we're currently working in.

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Let's make it happen for you.

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So it's a bit of just like

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separating company context from the

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person's growth path in this case.

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Yeah, I don't know if I say it is

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explicitly,

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but I feel like I just can't

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remember if we've spoken about this

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before, that it depends

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on what's in your heart.

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And people can.

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Even if you don't say it, people can

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read whether you're doing

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this for their benefit or your

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benefit to the company's benefit.

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And I really do go in

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to these, well,

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for lack of a better word, coaching

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sessions. They just sometimes one to

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ones turn into coaching sessions.

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Sometimes one to ones are

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something else.

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When they do turn into a coaching

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session, like I'm very much

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there for the individual in my

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heart, and I feel like

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they can read that

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from the place that I'm coming from

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somehow.

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People can tell maybe in their body,

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you know, I'm a bit more into this

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than you are the genuineness of what

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you're saying.

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Why don't we park it here and let's

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get on to our conversation with

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Stephen Roxburgh.

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When Brendan told me that he'd book

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to you, my very first question was,

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how could you write an entire book

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on one to ones?

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And I just would love to start with

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that question.

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I would argue back, how could you

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not write an entire book on one on

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ones?

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This is the meeting that

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employees can truly be seen

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by their manager.

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Let me tell you what I mean by a one

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on one, because maybe that will

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help. So when I talk about a one

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on one, I'm talking about a meeting

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that's orchestrated and facilitated

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by a manager, but it is not for

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them. It is for their people.

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It is for the people to share what's

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on their minds, their thoughts,

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their issues, their concerns, their

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obstacles.

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And for the manager to engage

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with them on the terms of their

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direct.

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So in many ways,

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this is a meeting for people to be

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truly seen.

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And that's what we're craving,

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right? That's what the pandemic

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really created obstacles

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towards having people feel

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seen. So these meetings

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are essential to

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individual success,

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leader success and organizational

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success. And yet there's almost

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no training on how to do them.

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And what we generally find is that

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managers are investing

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the time They're doing it so badly

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that it's becoming wasted time.

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So this book tries to elevate

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this practice and says, hey, this is

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truly an opportunity.

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You're doing it wrong.

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And if you do it right, here are the

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great outcomes that can arise from

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it.

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Brian Chayefsky, the CEO of Airbnb,

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is very clearly said from his lens

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or his point of view.

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Waste of time.

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Don't bother.

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The Nvidia CEO is kind of double

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down on that a little bit.

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But from your point of view, are

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they getting wrong in terms of that

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perception?

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I think they're doing them wrong.

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And when you do them wrong, they're

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absolutely a waste of time when

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they're done right.

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The outcomes are amazing.

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And this was based on a study done

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by Gallup involving over a million

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individuals.

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They find that when these things are

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executed effectively, employees

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report nearly three times as much

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engagement on the job.

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They also

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found greater productivity

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teams have greater thriving

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as well.

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And then the exciting thing

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is that the leaders success is

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enhanced, right?

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Leaders are ultimately evaluated by

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the success of those that report

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into them.

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So as these one on ones elevate

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the performance of individuals and

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teams, it only makes the leader

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look good.

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And then the big surprise is

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that we actually found that doing

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one on ones effectively resulted in

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more time back to

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the leader. Because basically what

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they report is that when they have

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these things in a regular cadence

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done well, that employees

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didn't have the need to constantly

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interrupt throughout the week.

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So managers are reported more time

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for flow, which, as we know in the

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tech industry is particularly

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important.

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So what I've seen

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is when an organization says

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we're going to ban a particular type

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of meeting, right? So we think about

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like, you know, Shopify saying no

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meetings or these practices,

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no one on ones that that

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is giving up on something that's

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absolutely critical.

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But the reason you're giving up is

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because your people aren't doing it

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right. And if we could change

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how people do it, the

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the positives will just be

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incredibly apparent.

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I'm not going to ask you, how do you

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do it? Right? I'm going to ask you

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because I suspect most of our

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listeners will be like me and be

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like, yeah, I'm fine with this.

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What are

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the common mistakes?

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You see where I as soon as you talk

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about it, I'm going to be like, oh,

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never mind. I'm really bad at this.

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So first of all, not being on a

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regular cadence.

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The research is really clear that

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when these things are done weekly or

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every other week, that's where you

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receive the greatest outcomes.

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So that regularity allows the

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relationship to truly grow

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and improve.

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Tick I do that one.

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Okay. Excellent.

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Right.

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I'm scoring myself.

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By the way I said we're out of 100.

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So here we go.

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So the cool thing is the amount

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of minutes actually matters less

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than the regularity of the contact.

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So even if you just doing 15

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to 20 minutes but they're good

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15 20 minutes, you're going to see

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the outcomes.

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So we talked about cadence.

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Next is how

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you conduct these things in terms

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of how you feature yourself.

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So if you're imposing

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your will on the employee and you're

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asking for status updates,

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that's not the goal of these, right?

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Managers can get status updates in

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so many different ways.

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Right. They have the power.

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They can send emails saying, hey,

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give me a status update.

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They can do it in team meetings.

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So we want these conversations

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to be about what's

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on the minds of their directs.

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Therefore, they're posing broad

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questions that allows the employee

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to respond in the manner

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that they choose to respond.

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And the types of things that

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managers are saying most are.

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Tell me more.

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Help me understand.

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How can I better support you?

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Right. So those are the types of

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utterances.

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And interestingly, what we find is

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that the more the manager talks him

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one on ones, the lower the ratings

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of effectiveness.

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Therefore, listen more than

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you speak. We have two ears, one

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mouth. We should be listening a heck

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of a lot more. So a common mistake

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is the manager talking more than

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the direct.

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And really making sure that the

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meeting is about them and not

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their direct.

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So that's the second thing.

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How are you doing on that one?

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Yeah I'm doing fine on that one.

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So those are two are a common.

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A third one is cancellation.

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So a lot of managers if

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something comes up for them they

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just cancel these one on ones.

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But that becomes a really negative

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signal to employees.

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Right. You're basically prioritizing

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everything above dumb.

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And so if you have to cancel

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a one on one the best practices to

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move it up as opposed

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to move it back, move it up

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even for 5 to 10 minutes,

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right. Just have that point of

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contact.

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And then finally I'll stop here.

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But there's so many.

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So another critical

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one is making sure that these

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one on ones have an end day.

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We know they end,

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but an ending is slightly different.

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And ending is where there's really a

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coming together of what we talked

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about, what was decided, how, you

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know, the commitments are made and

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then people follow through with

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them. So when you put this together,

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right, is these 20, 30

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minutes, maybe a dedicated,

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focused time where you are truly

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engaging with someone that reports

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into you on their terms.

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And if you stop and reflect

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and think about a time when someone

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in power took a genuine interest in

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you and how it affected you

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and your experience of

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them.

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That's what we're trying to

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replicate. That's the gift you're

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trying to give your people.

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This idea of, you know, we've got

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two ears and we should be listening.

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And, you know, it's really their

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meeting, not our meeting.

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What prevents that from becoming

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like a regular therapy session as

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opposed to something productive for

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the organization, if that makes

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sense.

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Well, let's take it to the extreme.

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Let's say you do have someone that's

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meeting with you for that

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20 minutes. And they need to they

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want to vent about a particular

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issue and have you listen and

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you say, hey, how can I support or

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prevent this from happening?

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So be it.

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What is wrong with giving someone 20

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minutes to.

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If that's what's on their minds?

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Let's let them get it off their

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minds.

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Right. So as a manager, we

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are managing the entire person,

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right? People bring their entire

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personhood to the organization.

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And if that individual

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feels like they, for this

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short period of time, that they need

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to tell their manager about

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something that's important

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to them.

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And if we want relationships to

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thrive, it just can't be our

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own agenda. I can think of lots of

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different relationships where we

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have conversations that I'm not

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really all that interested in

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having. I'm going to have them

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because the other person wants it.

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And so when we think about work

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weeks, we're talking 40 or

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50 hours.

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A person's grinding person's

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doing all kinds of stuff.

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Is it really that much to ask

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that we find some amount

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of time where we can engage with

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someone on their terms?

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If we're really trying to promote

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meaningful connection when

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we do a meaningful connection.

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Right. So when we do are willing

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to listen for those periods of time,

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the outcomes come up, right?

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So when we think about the people

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that we're really motivated to work

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for, it's people that we think

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care about us, right?

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We're committed to those types of

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individuals.

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And so it's an investment

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on someone else's terms.

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And we're not comfortable with that

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because we tend to lead our days

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with a very self oriented framework.

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But having this more other oriented

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framework with our people changes

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fundamentally their relationship to

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you and to the broader organization,

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which is desirable.

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Right? So when we think about all

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these conversations in the media

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about, yeah, people need to come to

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work, they need to start stop

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working at home.

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That's kind of the wrong

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conversation.

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You know, what we need is for people

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to have genuine connections with

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each other and

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to form a meaningful relationship

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with the larger organization, as

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opposed to viewing. Everything is

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transactional and one on ones

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are the front line of connection.

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What becomes apparent to me is

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what you say, which is it's the

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primary golden vehicle for building

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trust and a relationship

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and the feeling that you have there

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back, basically number one.

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Number two, there's an opportunity

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for career development and growth

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because you can help that individual

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kind of unlock their their skill

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set over the course of time by

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really shepherding that and acting

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as a guide or a mentor, whatever is

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appropriate in that case.

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And then the third one I find very

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useful is strategic

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alignment and really

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focus on what matters.

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I guess sometimes people they

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misunderstand or get skewed

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in terms of what the business is

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really trying to accomplish and how

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their role in their work rolls up

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into the greater good, so to speak,

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in terms of what we're trying to get

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done. I guess a degree, those

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are the three ingredients.

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And B, do you think there's other

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things that I'm not thinking about

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or different things that need to be

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tackled in that meeting, perhaps.

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That's exactly right.

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We can use a sports metaphor,

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right? We put all these athletes

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together, and we

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know there's so many examples

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of a team with better athletes

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not winning.

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Right? A team with better athletes

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is utterly failing.

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And in sports,

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those cultures, those franchises

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that really connect with their

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people and those coaches that really

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connect with their people, they

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tend to be more successful.

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Right? There's just a commitment

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that goes beyond the individual.

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And so these meetings,

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besides those great things that you

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named, it's also about promoting

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team synergy and connections.

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It's also we've all

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heard the adage that people don't

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leave bad jobs.

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They leave bad bosses.

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So it's the opportunity for the boss

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to prove that they're not a bad

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boss.

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So it has retention implications.

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It also has inclusion implications.

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So when we think about inclusion,

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what opportunities are there for

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people to feel included?

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This is a principal one

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right. This is one where you're

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absolutely demonstrating your

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commitment to inclusion.

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So there's so many different

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initiatives.

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There's so many different things.

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It's one of the few examples.

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One of the few examples

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that by bringing more humanity

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into the workplace is actually

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good for business.

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And I think it's really important to

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remember that, you know, meetings

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and one on ones are an actually

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an evolution from the command and

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control systems of the industrial

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revolution, where we devalue

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humans.

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Right? We just saw them as parts,

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and then we evolved beyond that.

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We realized that greatness happens.

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To the extent that the people that

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work in our organization are truly

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thriving and

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as they thrive, right, their

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commitment increases.

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Their helping of others increases.

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People tend to help each other more.

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Right. So we recognize that

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through this elevation

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of the human in the equation,

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great things can happen.

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This is our principal tool.

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This is our principal mechanism

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for making individuals

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fully recognize that,

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that those aren't just words.

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That is actually a commitment.

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Tell me this in terms of your book,

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and not so much the art part

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of it, but the science part of it.

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Was there anything that was

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surprising to you in your research

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as you delved into this?

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That's a great question. So one of

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them was that the thing I

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mentioned earlier is that

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through one on ones, managers were

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reporting having more time.

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I thought that was fascinating.

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Right. So when they're executed

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effectively so that those employees

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leave the room feeling like they're

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better supported and have more tools

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to address what's on their minds,

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that that resulted in a time

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savings for managers.

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I thought, that's really

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fascinating.

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Another thing is

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the really strong relationship

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between the amount of talk

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managers have versus directs.

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I think that's a really important

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reminder, and

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especially because there's

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a whole host of research that shows

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that people talk a lot because it

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activates the same parts of their

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brain as good food and

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sex.

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So we talk a lot

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because it kind of feels good, and

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we want to make sure we give that

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gift to someone else.

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I thought that was really

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interesting.

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And then probably the third

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thing would be

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the fact that these

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meetings need some type

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of light weight agenda.

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That was a surprise to me.

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You know, I thought people could

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basically just go into the room and

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kind of have an organic

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conversation. But what we found

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clearly was that these meetings do

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need a plan of action.

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And the more the employee

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is involved in the creation of that

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plan of action, the outcomes

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were elevated.

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But lightweight really is key.

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Right. So it could be identifying

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a core set of questions that are so

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broad that the employee can answer

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any way they want.

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They could be asking the

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employee the types of questions that

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they want the manager to ask.

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That's great as well.

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And then constantly rotating

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them so with the conversation is

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fresh. You know the other approach

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that's again lightweight, that works

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beautifully, is you ask the

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employees to come to these one on

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ones with the set of topics that

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they want to talk about.

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That's totally fine.

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But if you want to execute in that

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approach, what's so critical

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is the manager

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reminds them the topics

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they would like to bring should just

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not be there.

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Current fires they're fighting,

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right? That they should think about

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their work, the team, the

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organization. They should think

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short term and long term.

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Now come create a set of topics

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to be discussed.

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If you do that, then the breadth of

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issues become much more meaningful.

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Otherwise, people will come to the

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one on one bringing up topics

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that they think you want to hear,

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not what they want to share.

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And what do you think of this idea

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of just simply having like a little

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notion document between the two of

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you where over the course of the

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week you just kind of drop in

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elements of discussion

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points that you'd like to speak to a

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little bit between the two of you.

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So by the time you get to that 1 to

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1, both sides have an opportunity to

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maybe drop in a couple elements.

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Yeah, I've absolutely seen that

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executed effectively.

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I like that.

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I like the use of these alternative

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modalities to kind of gleam

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the information.

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I would if you want to take that

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approach, just make sure that there

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is an opportunity for

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the unexpected in these one on ones

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that people can bring up issues that

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maybe they didn't talk about.

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So as long as there's opportunities

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for that, that's great.

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And by the way, one of the cool

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things is I worked with this one

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organization and what we did when

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they had that type of a practice.

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And then after the one on ones, you

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know, the manager kind of took notes

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is then the manager used

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AI to basically analyze

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the theme of those notes to see

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how things have changed over time.

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And then when it became to

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performance appraisal time, they

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didn't have nearly the same anxiety

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because they had a whole corpus

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of information that was readily

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available.

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So that's kind of the other bonus,

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a regular one on ones.

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When that relationship is strong and

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you're talking about real issues,

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Shoes come performance appraisal

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time. There's no surprises.

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It's just a continuation of

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a relationship.

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How do we make sure line

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managers are effective?

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And then how do we scale this in a

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way that's suitable for the company,

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whereby we're not spending

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inordinate amounts of time trying to

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set up these line managers to be

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successful?

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So what's your answer to that?

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How do we get line managers in a

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place where they're successful?

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Then how do we scale it?

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So first of all, we need to

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provide people with some type of

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training and one on ones.

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When we look to different

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organizations, we've only found

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one that's very

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problematic, especially

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because there's a blind spot that

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we've also found in our research is

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that people think they're better at

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these things than they really are.

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You ask someone, hey, are you good

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with relationships?

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Oh, yeah, I'm good.

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I'm good with relationships.

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But clearly, if you look at our

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divorce rates, we're not that good

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with relationships.

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We kind of are a flip of the coin.

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So we want to train

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people up and then we want to build

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feedback and accountability

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mechanisms. Right.

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So let's make sure that our

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engagement surveys have content

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around one on ones.

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Right. They're fundamental to the

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employee experience.

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So by building this data our

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engagement surveys now managers are

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actually getting feedback and

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their managers can see how it's

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trending.

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Right. So we have a leveling up of

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skills. We have feedback and

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accountability.

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And then we want to make sure that

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senior leadership is modeling

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the types of behaviors that they

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want to see in their managers.

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So those are like three

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principal paths for kind of changing

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the culture around these activities.

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But fundamentally we

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just need to talk about it.

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So if you look at

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organizational values and vision

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statements, and I did this in the

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book, is almost

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all of them talk about

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elevating their people,

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helping their people grow and

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thrive.

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So this whole initiative of

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one on ones is not a

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flavor of the month.

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It is fundamental to the values of

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the organization.

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And then if you ask individuals

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about there.

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So we did this as well.

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We asked leaders about their values.

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Almost invariably you get

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one of my values is helping lift

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people. Treating people with respect

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and kindness.

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This is how you do it.

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This is the manifestation of values.

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I bring that up because that's

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another key piece to

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the success equation.

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It's not linking it to, hey, this

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is a new thing we're trying.

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It's linking it to who we

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are. But what is our calling

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card as an organization?

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We're an organization that lives

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our values.

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And this is an example.

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For the line managers that are doing

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that work, that important work

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to be able to support them

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effectively.

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What's your sense of getting those

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line managers together on a periodic

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basis as kind of like peer level

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support and having somebody there

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that's quite experienced with one to

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ones, and for that person to kind of

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get that group together a bit like a

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right, get the group together, talk

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about what they're experiencing in

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their 1 to 1, some of the challenges

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they're having as line managers and

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surface some of those things

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together as a group.

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Brandon, I love the things you're

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sharing. It's fabulous.

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I absolutely love it.

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So this is a strange statement,

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but it ties into your excellent

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point.

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We need to actually

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have meetings about meetings.

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We need some meetings about meetings

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and making our meetings work.

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And that's what you're describing,

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right in many regards as a meeting

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about meetings.

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But how could we not?

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Like if you really think about it,

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this is how people are spending

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their days.

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It's so tied.

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And we know people are so incredibly

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frustrated.

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So why are we not talking about

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that? There's a tremendous amount of

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all this negative energy.

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Let's use it.

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Let's use it for good.

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Let's use it to change our culture

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so that we get the benefit of these

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activities.

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So what I see what you're suggesting

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is this idea of periodically

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stepping back and

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people connecting and saying, hey,

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what's working, what's not working?

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And how can we help each other?

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And I like that.

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I want managers to start saying,

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hey, we need to chart

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a new future of work from a

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collaboration perspective.

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I hear you.

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You're miserable with meetings.

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I am too.

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And yet, meetings are where

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organizational democracy takes

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place. Meetings are where your voice

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can be heard.

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So therefore, we can't eliminate

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them. We have to make them better.

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Let's talk about it and establish

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some collective norms around how we

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can do it. So we don't have to have

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a lot of meetings about meetings.

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But periodically we need to step

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back and look about how

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this technology is truly working

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for us and how we could do better.

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And interestingly, I use the word

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technology purposefully

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in that when we think about an

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organization's investment in their

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IT, it's so much

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smaller than meetings.

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Meetings are way more costly

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than your entire IT budget.

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And yet we're pretty thoughtful

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with that IT budget.

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We constantly are looking at whether

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it's working for us.

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We're constantly examining how we

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can improve that solution.

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That's the same energy I want to

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bring to meetings.

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It's a good point because if you're

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doing one to ones across the

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company, the number of one to ones

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that are happening on aggregate, if

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you put that time together on a

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monthly basis, there's a significant

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time sync that's going into it.

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And to your point, if nobody's

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trained on one to ones in any form

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whatsoever, what are you doing?

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Right. And that's where I go back to

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the comment you made earlier about

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these. You know, these two CEOs are

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saying, let's stop this practice.

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I mean, that's just such a silly

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response as opposed to saying,

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giving up on having humanity in

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the workplace at having genuine

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connection. Like that's really what

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they're saying because this is the

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vehicle for doing that.

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So thank you for circling back to

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the beginning of the conversation so

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artfully.

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If you had a single takeaway

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to leave our audience, what would

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that be?

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I think the key message is that

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and I'm going to go back to the

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values, because I think that's

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really the critical

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piece, is that as you reflect

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on who you are as a human being

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and what you value, how

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are you manifesting?

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How are you enacting those values.

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Are you really behaving consistently

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with them?

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And I think more times than not, the

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answer is going to be no.

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And recognize that one on ones is

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this opportunity to act

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on those values.

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And by doing so actually

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elevate individual success

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and your success.

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And then the final thing I'll, I'll

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leave you with is one of the

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greatest predictors of

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life satisfaction

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is the helping of others.

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One on ones are your opportunity

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to help others and by doing so

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have a much richer life.

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Nice. Love it.

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So thank you, Stephen, for joining

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us on the operations Room.

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About the Podcast

The Operations Room: A Podcast for COO’s
We are the COO coaches to help you successfully scale in this new world where efficiency is as important as growth. Remember when valuations were 3-10x ARR and money wasn’t free? We do. Each week we share our experiences and bring in scale up experts and operational leaders to help you navigate both the burning operational issues and the larger existential challenges. Beth Ayers is the former COO of Peak AI, NewVoiceMedia and Codilty and has helped raise over $200m from top funds - Softbank, Bessemer, TCV, MCC, Notion and Oxx. Brandon Mensinga is the former COO of Signal AI and Trint.

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